{"id":131,"date":"2011-02-20T17:09:36","date_gmt":"2011-02-20T17:09:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/?p=131"},"modified":"2011-02-20T17:11:01","modified_gmt":"2011-02-20T17:11:01","slug":"eating-you-are","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/eating-you-are\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Do You Keep Eating After You\u2019re Full?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>In order to understand why people with an emotional eating problem keep eating after they are full, you have to understand what eating means to them.<\/p>\n

Emotional eaters don\u2019t want to face unpleasantness in their lives.\u00a0 They don\u2019t want to feel any negative feelings.\u00a0 So they eat to get a pleasurable distraction from the feelings, to numb themselves, or to go unconscious when negative feelings show up in their lives.\u00a0 (I call these negative feelings \u201ctriggers,\u201d because they \u201ctrigger\u201d eating as an automatic response.)<\/p>\n

How long are you able to escape the negative feelings?\u00a0 Usually only for as long as you are eating!\u00a0 So if you are having feelings you want to escape from, how long would you want to eat? \u2026 For as long as you possibly can, because the feelings will be suppressed only while you are eating and will re-surface as soon as you stop eating.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So you will start eating whether you are hungry or not in response to your triggers.\u00a0 And you will keep eating long past the point of being hungry whenever the triggers are present.\u00a0 Most emotional eaters have at least 15 different triggers, so at least one is present almost all the time.(As I point out in my free eBook, How To Stop Emotional Eating For Good<\/em>, http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/<\/a>, triggers are the main source of emotional eating, but beliefs usually are involved also for most people.\u00a0 And the beliefs are affecting you all the time.)<\/p>\n

When you de-condition eating as the conditioned response to the triggers, you will no longer automatically want to eat when a trigger appears in your life.\u00a0 At that point you can choose other things to distract you from the negative feelings; you can find alternative ways to cope with the triggers.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But there is a better way to handle the negative feelings.<\/p>\n

Instead of looking for a healthier way to suppress your negative feelings, why not just allow them to be?\u00a0 True, they don\u2019t feel good, but what if you just allowed yourself to feel bored, lonely, stressed, anxious, etc. when those feelings arose?\u00a0 What if you faced your feelings instead of looking for some way to avoid them?<\/p>\n

Here is a suggestion on how to do it.<\/p>\n

After you eliminate a belief using the Lefkoe Belief Process (if you haven\u2019t already done so, go to http:\/\/recreateyourlife.com\/free<\/a> where you can eliminate some of the most common beliefs free), you go into an altered state of consciousness where you have the profound experience that you are the creator of your life.\u00a0 You no longer experience yourself as the sum total of your beliefs; you experience yourself as the creator of the beliefs, as consciousness.<\/p>\n

In that state it is clear you have<\/strong> feelings, but you are not your feelings.\u00a0 You have<\/strong> thoughts, but you are not your thoughts.<\/p>\n

When you are in that state it is easy to make a distinction between your \u201cself\u201d and your \u201cSELF.\u201d\u00a0 After you\u2019ve made that distinction you are able to observe your feelings (which still feel very real) without being at the effect of them, without being run by them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When I use this method when I am having an upset, I imagine myself outside my body, looking at Morty, and saying to him: \u201cMorty, you are really upset.\u00a0 I wonder what you believe that is causing this upset.\u201d\u00a0 The mere act of talking to myself in this way enables me to distinguish between who I really am and the \u201cMorty\u201d who is having the feelings.\u00a0 And doing that significantly minimizes the impact of the feelings.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Whatever technique you use, once you have de-conditioned eating so it is no longer an automatic, unconscious response to your triggers, see if you can allow yourself to experience your feelings.\u00a0 They might not feel good. But you will survive them, I promise.\u00a0 And facing them is the first step to getting rid of them permanently.<\/p>\n

For more details, please see my eBook, The Secret to Ending Overeating For Good<\/em>, at http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com<\/a>.\u00a0 You also can get answers to specific questions at my office, 415-884-0552.<\/p>\n

Copyright \u00a9 2011 Morty Lefkoe<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

In order to understand why people with an emotional eating problem keep eating after they are full, you have to understand what eating means to them. Emotional eaters don\u2019t want to face unpleasantness in their lives.\u00a0 They don\u2019t want to feel any negative feelings.\u00a0 So they eat to get a pleasurable distraction from the feelings, … Continue reading “Why Do You Keep Eating After You\u2019re Full?”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false,"jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true},"categories":[1],"tags":[11,29,8,28,16,7,27],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/131"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=131"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/131\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":136,"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/131\/revisions\/136"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=131"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=131"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=131"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}