{"id":142,"date":"2011-03-23T22:54:11","date_gmt":"2011-03-23T22:54:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/?p=142"},"modified":"2011-03-23T23:14:47","modified_gmt":"2011-03-23T23:14:47","slug":"started-gain","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/started-gain\/","title":{"rendered":"She was gaining weight again"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>A week or so ago I called a woman who had been a client of mine several months earlier about her emotional eating problem. She had used the Lefkoe De-conditioning Process to get rid of all the triggers we could find and the Lefkoe Belief Process to eliminate all the relevant beliefs.\u00a0 For several months after our last session she had been eating normally and healthily and had been losing weight.<\/p>\n

But instead of hearing that the weight had continued to fall away, she told me during my follow-up call that she had gained back all the weight she had lost and was eating badly again.\u00a0 I asked her why she hadn\u2019t called me and asked for help.\u00a0 She said she didn\u2019t know why she hadn\u2019t called<\/p>\n

<\/a>\"\"<\/a>In a situation like this, there are two possible explanations: First, what we had done hadn\u2019t worked.\u00a0 Second, it had worked and there was some other explanation.\u00a0 I decided to check out the second possibility first.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I asked her to tell me everything about her life for the past few months.\u00a0 She told me that she had had knee surgery last December and had been unable to walk, much less exercise for over two months.\u00a0 That could partially account for the increase in weight, but it wouldn\u2019t account for overeating and unhealthy eating.\u00a0 For example, she had totally stopped drinking Pepsi for several months but had gone back to several bottles a day.\u00a0 She was eating pizza for dinner frequently.<\/p>\n

Almost in passing she mentioned that after she realized that she would be unable to exercise\u2014which meant to her that the constant weight loss she had been experiencing probably would stop\u2014she had the thought: What\u2019s the use.\u00a0 I\u2019ll never lose weight no matter how hard I try<\/em>.<\/p>\n

That was a new belief that partially explained the re-emergence of her eating problem.\u00a0 So she eliminated that belief.\u00a0 During the session she found and eliminated another, older, belief that had contributed to the problem: Even if I lose weight, no one will ever be interested in me, so why bother.<\/em><\/p>\n

When we talked the following week she told me that she was not consciously doing anything different, but she was drinking far less Pepsi and had stopped her overeating.\u00a0 She noticed that she would unconsciously go to the pantry, look in, then realize that she wasn\u2019t hungry, and close the door and walk away.<\/p>\n

In a second session a week later she told me why she had not been eating healthily during the prior couple of months.\u00a0 Because she was unable to shop and cook for herself because of the foot surgery, she ate whatever her children brought home\u2014usually pizza\u2014and wouldn\u2019t ask them to buy her something healthier and less fattening.<\/p>\n

The beliefs she identified and eliminated that caused this behavior included: I can\u2019t count on other people.\u00a0 I\u2019m not worthy.\u00a0 I have to do it on my own. <\/em>These beliefs explained by why hadn\u2019t asked her children or friends to buy the food that she normally purchased for herself.<\/p>\n

A few days later I received the following note from her:<\/p>\n

\u201cI just want to thank you again. \u00a0It is awesome to experience hunger! \u00a0Before, I was eating all the time and never got hungry. \u00a0 I’m so happy. \u00a0I feel in control of myself again. \u00a0 I thought if I called you, I was a failure, but now I see how we can still take on bad beliefs that we need to get rid of. \u00a0I won’t wait next time. \u00a0 \u00a0Thank you again. \u00a0I appreciate you so much!\u201d<\/p>\n

So although her \u201crelapse\u201d could have meant that the de-conditioning and the belief eliminating hadn\u2019t worked to stop her emotional eating problem, on further investigation we discovered that what we had done previously had worked\u2014and there was a little more that needed to be done.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ever give up hope. It is possible to totally stop your emotional eating problem.<\/p>\n

For more details, please see my eBook, The Secret to Ending Overeating For Good<\/em>, at http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com<\/a>.\u00a0 You also can get answers to specific questions at my office, 415-884-0552.<\/p>\n

Copyright \u00a9 2011 Morty Lefkoe<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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