{"id":70,"date":"2011-01-04T20:55:53","date_gmt":"2011-01-04T20:55:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/?p=70"},"modified":"2011-06-06T19:44:02","modified_gmt":"2011-06-06T19:44:02","slug":"parents-unwittingly","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/parents-unwittingly\/","title":{"rendered":"How Our Parents Can Unwittingly Cause Emotional Eating Problems"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/01\/EE-blog-photo-010510-beliefs-from-parents.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-71\" src=\"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/01\/EE-blog-photo-010510-beliefs-from-parents-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" srcset=\"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/01\/EE-blog-photo-010510-beliefs-from-parents-300x200.jpg 300w, http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/01\/EE-blog-photo-010510-beliefs-from-parents.jpg 900w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 85vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Most overeating is the result of <a href=\"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\">emotional eating<\/a>.\u00a0 And a significant cause of all emotional eating is conditioning.\u00a0 In other words, eating becomes a conditioned response to a number of triggers, such as loneliness, anxiety, depression, and feeling unlovable.\u00a0 When those triggers appear in your life, you are conditioned to want to eat.<\/p>\n<p>In addition, however, another important cause of overeating is beliefs, most of which were formed in childhood as a result of interactions with parents.<\/p>\n<p>Here are just a few of the common things parents say and do that lead to beliefs that, in turn, lead to emotional eating.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cFinish everything on your plate (whether you are hungry or not).\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cIt\u2019s time to eat (whether you are hungry or not).\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cDon\u2019t eat that or you&#8217;ll gain weight.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cGood\u201d foods and \u201dbad\u201d foods.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cIf you gain weight you won\u2019t have any friends.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cShoulds\u201d and \u201cshouldn\u2019ts\u201d around food and eating.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Parents who are often on diets or who have an eating problem.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Which of these situations were present in your household?<\/p>\n<p>Here are just a few of the possible beliefs that can result from this type of parental behavior and comment.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>If I don\u2019t control my eating I\u2019ll put on weight.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>The way to stay thin is to control my food and exercise a lot.<\/li>\n<li>If I\u2019m heavy I\u2019ll be rejected.<\/li>\n<li>I can\u2019t trust my body (to tell me when to eat or stop eating).<\/li>\n<li>I can&#8217;t trust myself to know how much to eat and when to eat.<\/li>\n<li>The only way to know what and when to eat is to keep things the same.<\/li>\n<li>If I look fat I\u2019ll be rejected.<\/li>\n<li>If I gain a few pounds it means I\u2019m out of control.<\/li>\n<li>My body is revolting. (One woman with this belief is 5\u20199\u201d and weighs 110 pounds)<\/li>\n<li>I need to exercise to deserve food.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m not deserving.<\/li>\n<li>I have to be deserving to eat.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m a fake.<\/li>\n<li>Sense of self: big, chunky, uncoordinated.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>If I can\u2019t eat \u201cbad\u201d foods, I\u2019m missing out.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Bad\u201d foods make you fat.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>To lose weight you can\u2019t eat anything \u201cbad.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>The way to keep food from running my life (like it did my mom\u2019s) is to eat whatever I want to eat.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>If I don\u2019t eat when there\u2019s food around there won\u2019t be any later.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>The way to be in control is to eat what I want, when I want.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>The way to keep from being hungry is to have a lot of food in the house.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Which of these beliefs did you form?<\/p>\n<p>It is possible to permanently stop emotional eating by de-conditioning eating as the response to triggers and the desire for certain rewards, and by eliminating all the relevant beliefs.<\/p>\n<p>For more details, please see my eBook, <em>The Secret to Ending Your Overeating For Good<\/em>, at <a href=\"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Copyright \u00a9 2011 Morty Lefkoe<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Most overeating is the result of emotional eating.\u00a0 And a significant cause of all emotional eating is conditioning.\u00a0 In other words, eating becomes a conditioned response to a number of triggers, such as loneliness, anxiety, depression, and feeling unlovable.\u00a0 When those triggers appear in your life, you are conditioned to want to eat. In addition, &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/parents-unwittingly\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;How Our Parents Can Unwittingly Cause Emotional Eating Problems&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false,"jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true},"categories":[1],"tags":[11,17,8,16,7,4,18],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/70"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=70"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/70\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":159,"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/70\/revisions\/159"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=70"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=70"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/emotionaleatingreport.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=70"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}